We're all in this together to create a welcoming environment. Let's treat everyone with respect for their autonomy and personhood. We'll disagree sometimes, but kindness is required.

Bullying of any kind isn't allowed, and degrading comments about things such as race, religion, culture, sexual orientation, gender or identity will not be tolerated... and anyway, why tf would you join an explicitly anti-fascist community if you want to do hate speech? You will be removed from the Union immediately if you do this.

When joining the Union, we all acknowledge that we are problematic. We all have internalised some elements of one or more systems of oppression or power hierarchies that govern our societies, including patriarchy, white supremacy, and capitalism, depending on our intersections. We acknowledge that we have been shaped by the systems of power and oppression we have grown up within. We acknowledge that in some parts of our lives, we hold unearned, undeserved advantages. When you join the Union, you confirm you have this self-awareness and also a commitment to the challenging work of deconstruction and inquiry.

Being part of the Union requires mutual trust. Authentic, expressive discussions are what we’re here for and are often sensitive and private. What's shared in the Union should stay in the Union. Know going in that we cannot guarantee this behavior in others - we aim to make this a safer space as no space can be said to be 100% safe. You can share about your Union experience, please do not share about the experiences of others. The Las Vegas Rule will be clarified at the beginning of every session in the Union, please ask questions if anything is unclear.

Organizing the Union requires labor - from guest experts, leaders, and facilitators. Please use the communication channels indicated. Please do not personally DM guest experts, leaders, facilitators, or other group members without asking permission first.

We know dating, sex, and relationships often trigger strong emotional responses. Venting is allowed under the following circumstances: 1. You begin posts within the community space with #vent 2. You add content warnings to posts upfront 3. You keep posts to around 250 words and add spaces between paragraphs 4. You accept consensual participation, which means some days you may not receive responses 5. Live group spaces will indicate if space is being held for personal sharing or venting. Understand that the facilitator may bring a close to your share to allow others to participate.

We know that most of us in this space have our own experiences of shock or developmental trauma. We know many people lack access to mental health support. It's important to make clear that the work we do in this group isn't a replacement for therapy and cannot be considered as mental health care.

This is an explicitly anti-capitalist space. We believe that capitalism wreaks havoc on human relating. We are also running a business while doing the work of deconstructing from capitalism. Part of that is unlearning exploitation and discovering enough. We have a commitment to anti-capitalist, non-exploitative pricing and a commitment to non-exploitative labor practices for the experts and facilitators who make this community possible.  

The Pleasure Union is right for you if you're ready to go on a journey of self-exploration that doesn't force you into some socially sanctioned box, but where you have the freedom to discover what is true for you. This isn't likely the first time you've thought about the role your sexuality might play in your life and this definitely isn't the very first personal development activity you've ever done. You're coming in with some experience and an open mind.

Yes. The Pleasure Union incapsulates a politics of dignity - honoring the autonomy and personhood of others. We are an anti-fascist organization, meaning we are explicitly anti-racist. We are anti-capitalist, honoring of gender, sexual, and relationship diversity, embracing of functional diversity, sex positive, sex worker friendly, and justice oriented. We're also people still on this journey and we know we harbor unconscious bias and problematic ways of thinking. We're committed to the lifelong work of rooting these influences out.

We recognize that we're better able to hold space for some people than others currently as a collective. We're very well placed to hold space for sexual, gender, and relationship diversity, kink and kinkiness, sex workers, people who have left purity culture or other high control religions, and neurodivergent people.

We are less equipped to hold space for Black people, people of color, and functionally diverse / disabled people, primarily because we are lacking this representation within our community and leadership and know that this means we have blindspots. This is an area of ongoing development and we are actively seeking to increase representation in our leadership and member community.

Right now, immediately. You can join The Pleasure Union today and receive instant access to the Membersite, which includes a weath of resources (if you're the exploring-dipping-in-and-out kind of person) as well as a few clear paths (if you want to follow a structure and not get overwhelmed with choice). We have live events every week, so it won't be long before you can come see us on Zoom.

To experience results from this community takes less time than you'd think and more time than you want, in equal measure. What I mean by that is - some things start to happen very quickly when you begin implementing the behavioural and mindset shifts we teach in the Union, and also that creating lasting habits, thought patterns, and changes in life takes time. Our suggestion is to plan to be with us for at least 12 months for the best outcomes.

Yes! Most of what goes down in The Union is recorded, so you can catch up on those events you cannot attend live. And for the events that are live only, we hold them at different times of day, to give our members the opportunity to join live when it's convenient for them.

Nope. The Union is a group experience. You may choose to book 1:1 sessions with Union Leadership or Guest Experts (we're all practitioners who work with people 1:1!) by enrolling with them directly and paying their fees for 1:1 client work. 

You must agree to be governed within The Union by the principles set out in the Union Rules (listed earlier on this page). If you don't jive with those principles, don't sign up. 

Yes! Tell everyone you think might be interested - your barber, your dentist, your friends, your great-aunt. Send them the link to this page and encourage them to come join us. And if they're not ready yet? Let them know about the Slutty Activism podcast - it's a great place to start!

If you still have questions, feel free to use the "message us" box in the lower right hand side of this screen (Sarah monitors this - like yes it's actually me who will reply to you there!) or drop me an email at sarah [at] dignifiedhedonist [dot] com.