What’s the Deal with Microcheating?

October 23, 2019

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Have you heard of the term “microcheating”? It has recently gained increasing popularity on social media and refers to a pattern of seemingly small behaviors that indicate that your partner may be excessively focused on someone else (emotionally or physically).

If you’ve already encountered this term and are wondering if the specific behaviours listed as microcheating are really a cause for concern, you’ve come to the right place! Have a listen to this episode of the Get Sex Smart podcast, in which Dr. Valeria and I share our opinions on microcheating, its validity, and what it may mean for our intimate relationships. Buckle up because this one is going to be a bit of a rant! 

From Episode 79 you will learn:

  • what microcheating is
  • some of the behaviours that are considered microcheating
  • what this list of microcheating behaviours gets right and wrong
  • about the (problematic) culture around cheating in the US
  • the importance of boundaries and how they fit into this concept
  • the problem with a fear-based approach to relationships and how to step away from it
  • the heteronormativity implicit in the concept of “microcheating”
  • why context is key to determine whether or not a given behaviour is pathological
    the importance of personal space and secrets – regardless of our relationship status
  • how one can you work through having been cheated on in order to move forward in that relationship or their other future relationships

About the Author

Sarah Martin, MA, CSC is CEO of Dignified Hedonist, a sexuality support company that guides introverted men to lead desire-led, sex-forward, and pleasure-focused lives. Sarah is the host of the Sexual Craftsmanship podcast, a weekly podcast packed full of actionable information and advice for sex and relationships in the 21st century. Sarah loves rainbows, books, and Pokemon Go.

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