The Ultimate Personal Growth Challenge. Sexual Confidence in 6 Months

The only elite sex coaching program tailored to the unique needs of introverted men like you.

Recently had a "Fuck It" moment?

If you're done with staying stuck, finished with overthinking paralysis, and ready to do what you need to do, even if it's challenging, The Elite Dignified Hedonist one to one coaching program will take you further than you thought possible in your sex and relationship life.

Who it's for

  • Introverted men, including men in STEM, men with ASD, ADD, ADHD, and other forms of neurodiversity
  • Individual men, including men who are single, dating, in a relationship, married, or polyamorous
  • Men with any degree of previous sexual experience. Virgins are welcome
  • Men who are curious about alternative relationship styles, including BDSM and ethical non-monogamy

What Elite Coaching Can Do

These are some of the concrete results experienced by men like you

Lose Your Virginity

Regardless of whether you're in your 20s, 30s, 40s, 50s, or beyond.

Find Hookups and FWBs

All in a way that isn't creepy. Make casual sex fun and accessible.

Find a Girlfriend

Even if you feel clueless and have no idea how people do this.

More Dates

And more second dates. Become a rejector more often than a rejectee.

Flirt with Confidence

In a style that feels authentic and fun for you. 

Cultivate Sexual Power

Boldly ask for what you want. Become more dominant in the bedroom.

When I started working with Sarah, I hadn't been on a single date in my life and had no idea how would I even get one. By the end of our work, I've found myself routinely going on more dates in a single week than during the 10 years prior, combined, and being a rejector more often than a rejectee.

Matthew*, 27


I went to Sarah's workshop and less then a month later, I've found my girlfriend. Since I've started going to Sarah's events, I've learned a lot about sexuality, consent and communication and slowly but surely, started applying all of that wonderful knowledge to my own personal life. 

Vernon*, 24


My confidence level is quite high after a long time. I have never been so confident around women frankly. It feels so much simpler and easier. 

I even had a meeting with my manager's manager today and he told me he has never seen me so confident before!

Krish*, 35


*Names and images changed to preserve client confidentiality. Their words are real.

How it Works

Elite coaching is a combination of sex education, actionable strategy, accountability, and unwavering support. It's about bringing out the best of who you are and getting you results.

Intentional Commitment

To be blunt, you've probably spent years getting into your current situation. We'll get you out of it in 6 months.

Deliberate Action

Through talk-based sessions and missions to complete between sessions, you will take only the necessary action to move forward.

Proven Framework

The Dignified Hedonist framework guides the coaching journey through a series of targeted sessions and action-based missions.

The Dignified Hedonist Framework

Your Coach

Hi, I'm Sarah

I guide introverted men into a world of sensual delight using a proven and efficient framework that gets results. I'm in the business of dignified hedonism.

I've helped my clients...

  • Lose their virginity in a way that felt fun and relaxed
  • Find hookups, casual sex, and friends with benefits without feeling creepy
  • Learn how to be more dominant in the bedroom
  • Go on more dates in one week than in the previous decade
  • Learn how to be more dominant in the bedroom

I can help you, too.

What's Included


Every two weeks, we meet for targeted coaching sessions. Each session lasts up to 90 minutes, so there's no rush. You have time to gather your thoughts and ask your questions.


Before your first session, and after every session, you receive a mission packet. This includes set activities following the framework, as well as custom missions tailored to you.


You have direct access to your coach for support between session via email and WhatsApp. If needed, you can have a 15 minute accountability check-in on the weeks between sessions.


As an Elite Coaching client, you get access to bonuses and you receive gifts from your coach. The surprises you receive are unique to you!

What's The Cost?

In Full

Enjoy the best pricing when paying in full


Apply Now

Select a time for your Desire Detection call. We'll meet for 30 minutes and dig into what you want out of coaching and check if we're a good fit. In the next step, you complete an application form. If you do not complete the application, your call will be cancelled.

Sarah taught me dating methods which are efficient, but at the same time - decent, with care for the other side. E.g. how to communicate directly about sexual or romantic interaction, in a clear way, without being needy or creepy.

Most importantly - it works! I got a few respectful NOes and, well, a few YESes.

Peter*, 32

Data Scientist

Sarah is normal. You can just talk to her, it won't be intimidating, it won't be awkward. She has this incredible skill of explaining feelings stuff in a logical, almost mathematical way.

She translates emotional to geeky. Sheldon Cooper would get laid in no time after having the talk with Sarah.

Connor*, 31

Medical Doctor

*Names and images changed to preserve client confidentiality. Their words are real.


How much time does it take?

Elite Coaching lasts for 6 months. You need 5 hours each week to dedicate to this process. It’s better to take consistent action (i.e. an hour a day) than to cram right before 1:1 sessions.

What do I get, materially?

Here's what's included in the program:

- An extensive intake questionnaire before our first session, so that we hit the ground running

- A 60 – 90 minute 1:1 coaching session every other week

- A mission assigned after every session to keep you actively learning and growing

- Optional 15 minute accountability calls in the in between weeks to update your progress

- Unlimited email and WhatsApp support

- Gifts to support you and because gifts are awesome

How do we work together?

We work together online. You can be anywhere.

You select a regularly recurring time with me that works for you. If you know you have travel or holidays coming up, tell me during your application call.

How do you protect my confidentiality?

I am sensitive to the spectrum of data privacy needs, and will tailor my work with you to take into account your needs.

We can work together using traditional email and Zoom video conferencing, alternately we can use Signal and JitsiMeet. It is also possible to work with me in person (this involves additional, travel-related costs).

What you share with me is not shared with anyone else.

During your application call, we will discuss your tech related privacy preferences in as much detail as needed to assure your comfort.

How much experience do I need?

Depends on what you mean by experience.

You don’t need any dating, relationship, or partner sex experience. You also don’t need experience of sexuality-focused workshops or other forms of adult sexuality education.

You need to have experience with growth and skills development. The experience of growing and developing your skills means you know what success tastes like as you grow.

This is more supportive of developing sexual confidence than you can imagine.

Do you offer refunds?

No. Elite coaching is a significant commitment on both our parts. There are a limited number of places available in this program in order to deliver a high-touch, elite experience. So, when someone joins, that means others are turned away. Your first payment, whether in full or in installments, is non-refundable. You may choose to cancel your coaching contract with 30 days written notice.

Why does it cost that much?

Simply put, I am invested in your success. You need to be, too.

This is a significant commitment. You have to do the work. You have to show up for yourself, focus, and challenge yourself. It gets uncomfortable – growth is uncomfortable.

I strictly limit the number of people in the program – there’s never more than 5 at any given time. This ensures you receive the individual attention and accountability you need to succeed.

Why do I have to apply?

Because this isn’t for everyone and time is precious.

I don’t want you to enter this program if you’re not ready to commit to the work. I don’t want this to be an experience of disappointment or letting yourself down. I don’t want you to work with me if we are not a good fit.

Applying to work with me is straightforward:

- Fill out the application form.

- Book a time for a 30 minute call with me. There’s no cost for this call.

- This call is for both of us – it is your chance to ask any and all questions you have and for us to explore desires for your sexual life.

- I will tell you if you are not a fit, or if you are not a fit at this time. It’s in neither of our interests for you to participate in the program if it will not benefit you.

Why should I work with you?

Apart from what I share about me elsewhere, in short, I am uniquely placed to serve as your sex coach. I have a very particular set of skills.

I only work with introverted men and understand the unique needs of introverted men. You’re in male-dominated work and study environments. You likely have experiences of being bullied, often related to your sexuality or your challenges finding sexual partners.

Also, I’m endlessly curious about the environment men today navigate and the conflicting advice men receive related to dating, sex, and relationships. I wrote my Master’s thesis about pickup artists.

If what you’re after is pure numbers, I’m not for you. If what you’re after is confidence in yourself as a sexual being, pleasure, and the ability to have new and rewarding experiences (be that with a life-long partner or a one night stand), I can deliver on that far better than pickup artists ever could.

My job is to hold space for you as a sexual being, whether you have had many partners, one, or none. My role is to guide you through a proven process of discovery and skills development that men like you have been through before. My responsibility is to show up for who you are as an individual.

How do I know if sex coaching is for me?

If you've read everything on this page and you're still feeling uncertain, you can book a one-off taster session with no ongoing commitment for a special price. The best way to learn what sex coaching is like is to experience it.