What is Creepy?

You’ve heard it before. Maybe from friends, from peers, on TV, in movies.

A group of people, standing around and discussing how creepy someone was.

Maybe it was a person in a shop, or on a bus, or a friend’s bad Tinder date experience. They had to deal with a creepy person and wound up feeling bad because of it.

No one wants to come across as creepy. The idea that a person you were interested in, or went on a date with, might similarly be standing around and talking to friends about how creepy you were is really uncomfortable.

It’s actually pretty simple to avoid being perceived as creepy. The solution will require working on your communication skills. Once you know what underpins 99.9% of the things we deem creepy, you’ll know what to improve in your own life.

One-Sided Conversations

Creepiness boils down to this:

The creepy factor comes in when you’re having a “one-sided conversation”.

One-sided conversations are a precursor to full-blown scary because you’re not listening to the person you’re with.

In the example of touch communication, this could happen if you don’t know how touch communication works. Or, you could come off as creepy because you don’t have very much body awareness, as in the case of body language related creepiness.

Why can one-sided conversations be perceived as creepy? The person you’re with can sense they are not being fully seen and acknowledged as an individual.

Imagine suddenly finding yourself in a situation where someone loses sight of you as a person. Of course, it might be harmless. But it can also turn dangerous – a possibility that many people are hyper-aware of.

This sense of “creepiness” is a warning that we need to be more alert and, ideally, get away from whatever is provoking the creepy feeling.

Start with Listening

This is good news because it means you’re not stuck in a hopeless situation. You’re not doomed to always wonder whether someone will think you are creepy.

Improving your communication skills is fully within your grasp. The best place to begin to avoid creepiness is to work on your listening skills.

Aim Higher

You deserve to hold the bar higher for yourself than, simply, “Don’t be creepy”.

Frankly, “don’t be creepy” isn’t much of a goal.

Once you’ve mastered the art of being a good listener and paying attention to body language, a world of possibilities opens up for you.

Consider working towards having wonderful, connected, mind-bendingly pleasurable relationships and sex with others.

Becoming an amazing and present lover sounds like a much better goal – what do you think?